Social workers suggest that unmarried men and women do not need to prescribe a lot of "imaginary" conditions before marriage, but learn to "empathize".

(Provided by Zhongli Meimei Service Center)

[Reporter Li Rongping/Taoyuan Report] It is natural for unmarried men and women to ask for basic conditions and requirements when looking for a partner, but if the conditions are too unusual, sometimes they may miss the opportunity of marriage!

The Meimei Service Center in Zhongli District, Taoyuan City, which has been established for nearly 38 years, found that there are several unmarried men and women who have good conditions, but the conditions for choosing a spouse are beyond the understanding of the social workers, and they have to worry about arranging a partner.

For example, female A who is 33 years old this year, passed the college entrance examination, and is 156 cm tall. She is a public servant in the Taipei City Government and requires boys to be 185 cm tall and earn more than one million yuan. The center once arranged for a 184 cm tall man with an income of more than 2 million yuan. Although the difference is only 1 cm, female A still insists that the height of boys should be 185 cm, which is still unacceptable.

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A 36-year-old girl with the surname Chen, who graduated from National Taiwan University and the National Taiwan University Research Institute and worked as a foreign business manager, told the social worker that her parents both graduated from National Taiwan University, and her only sister also graduated from National Taiwan University. , the elder sister gave birth to the first nephew to study in the kindergarten of National Taiwan University. Ms. Chen hoped that the other half of the future would also be from National Taiwan University.

There is also Mr. A who holds a master’s degree from Tsinghua University and works as an assistant manager in a well-known technology company in Hsinchu. He once dated a slender girl with a height of 168 cm and a weight of 53 kg. The temperament is excellent, but unfortunately the weight is not under 45 kg as he requested. Although the girl who is 168 tall and weighs 53 kg is considered thin and tall, it does not meet his expectation of under 45 kg.

Xu Naiyi, a senior social worker, mentioned that, in fact, I once met a female dentist whose father was a doctor. She originally wanted to marry a doctor, but the center arranged for 5 doctors and 1 national high school teacher. Later, she married a high school teacher. At that time, the female doctor’s parents were very Angry, they didn't come to thank the matchmaker until 10 years later, because the two found out that after their daughter married a teacher, they would see a doctor at night after marriage, and the son-in-law could look after the children at home.

In addition, some people want boys to have Mercedes-Benz cars, some want girls to be military teachers, and some people think boys should have houses and cars. All kinds of unconstrained ideas make people worry about when they will find another "ideal" or "fantasy". half.

Xu Naiyi emphasized that marriage is not a "consideration" relationship. Every couple has a different way of getting along during the marriage process. Unmarried men and women do not need to ask a lot of "imaginary" conditions before marriage, but learn to "change positions" Thinking", the tacit understanding in this not only becomes the bond of mutual dependence, even if there are occasional disputes and unpleasant disagreements, the touch of cuddling and supporting is actually the key to perfect love.