The line that separates these two notions is very sensitive

Experts believe that there should be some kind of hierarchy in the child's education.

Once upon a time this worked in such a way that the positions of the various family members were strictly established, while the hierarchy served to impose discipline.

However, such hierarchy has now largely disappeared.

The child knows that he should respect his parents, but how do you act if respect appears out of fear?

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Respect and fear are two different categories, as are the consequences that flow from them.

Respect inspires, comes from love and admiration and creates healthy and strong relationships.

Fear, on the other hand, paralyzes, creates challenging, unstable and problematic reactions and causes suffering.



The line that separates these two notions is very sensitive, sometimes even blurred, but if you pay attention to these four signs, it becomes clearer.

1. Degree of confidence

Without a doubt, this is the main point that can help you learn whether children fear you or, nevertheless, respect you.

When they encounter an obstacle and a problem, are you the first person they ask for help or do they do everything to hide the problem from you?

If they turn to you immediately, your children respect you, because they know that only you will sincerely help them.

In the other case, they are clear that they will only be criticized and reprimanded.

They consider that your purpose is not to guide them, but to punish them.



2. Emotional expression

Do your children share their emotions with you?

Are they free to show bitterness in front of you, anger, sorrow, happiness?

Showing emotions is a sign of respect that shows children that you will accept and respect their emotions, allow them to be who they are, and help them control their emotions. Theirs.

A child who fears his parents will suppress his emotions to avoid the consequences.

3. The quality of the relationship

If your children respect you, you will probably be emotionally close, enjoy each other's company, and spend time together.

Although there are sometimes conflicts and disagreements, your relationship is healthy and harmonious.



But when children fear their parents, they develop cold or ambivalent attitudes towards them.

For example, they may be sullen, distant and indifferent, and they may feel resentment and rejection from their parents, although this may not be the case.

4. Critical thinking

If the child is comfortable expressing his opinion in front of you, this is a sign that he respects you.

It's not about the child constantly challenging your authority or trying to overstep agreed boundaries, it's about feeling like it's possible to talk openly with you because they know you'll listen.


When children fear their parents, they tend to obey them blindly, even if they don't understand or agree with the rules.

It is likely that, at some point, that submission will turn into rebellion and produce adversarial attitudes.


In this case, the child feels that he has no right to vote in his family and that conversation, agreement and compromise are not possible.