Figure / Dazhi Video

Text / Li Yiqin

A pair of sisters sat across from me and complained chirpingly: "Mr. Li, what you said in class just now about sibling rivalry, and parents' patriarchal concept, which affects the relationship between siblings, really happened in my house. "My sister vented her anger all at once.

There are 3 daughters in their family, plus the youngest one is a younger brother.

Because Grandma likes boys and grandchildren, she must give birth to a boy before she can stop.

"So after the younger brother was born, he was loved by the whole family? Is the younger brother studying now?" I asked.

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"Dropping out of school, after graduating from junior high school, his parents asked him to go to a private fifth college. Every day, he was urged to wake up three times and four times. He often missed classes. In the end, he couldn't keep up with the progress, so he simply stopped going to school. Now he stays at home and plays video games all day long." My sister finished speaking in one breath.

"Ms. Li, do you know why we study nursing? Because my parents said that only being a nurse will not lose my job, and I will be able to take care of my family in the future. It feels like our sisters are tool people at home. Our sisters are in My parents seem to be dissatisfied with how the family lives according to their parents' wishes. They put all their energy on the younger brother. What we can't understand the most is that the younger brother often talks to parents I would scold my parents angrily. My parents also asked us to work part-time to earn pocket money. We were required to pass the nurse’s license, and then we had to find a way to earn money to support our family. Teacher, it seems unfair for our parents to ask for it!”

〈It's all one family〉You have to grow up and your parents have to learn

I want them to stretch out 5 fingers and see which one is the most frequently used?

They looked at me and said thumb and index finger.

Ask them which finger they like the most but don't use it often?

They answered ring finger.

"Which finger do you wear the beautiful rings on?" I asked again.

"Ring finger!" The sisters said in unison.

"Among the five fingers, do most people wear rings on their most used thumb and index finger? Parents usually place more expectations and demands on older children; Children are more tolerant and willing to take care of them, just like five fingers: they use their index finger and thumb when doing things, and their ring finger is not very functional, but gorgeous diamond rings are usually worn on their ring finger. Unless the thumb and index finger are functional When it is useless, it will be replaced by other fingers." I explained.

The two sisters are the index finger and the thumb.

This is why their parents demand a lot from them, and they work hard to meet their parents' expectations, but they will never get their parents' approval and love.

Parents take everything the sisters do for granted.

I suggest that every role is not born with the ability to play well unless grown up with role models.

So it is the first time for parents to be parents, and it is also the first time for us to be children. No one is born with the ability to play such a role perfectly. These are homework, and we must learn from each other.

Put forward your needs and opinions to your parents in a timely manner, don't hold back, and let your parents know what to do to help your younger brother's future; don't spoil your younger brother just because he is the gender expected by your parents and can be passed on to the next generation.

Growth itself is difficult, and it is necessary to break through the barriers given by the environment. Just like a seed that needs to germinate, it must first go through competition with the same species and then pass through the thick soil before it can bloom beautiful flowers and bear sweet fruits.

Looking at the backs of the two sisters, I look forward to them being able to pass through the barriers without being restricted by nature and the environment, to bloom the brilliant flowers of life, and to grow their own fruits!

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